It’s 7:55pm on December 30, 2018.
I’m 1000% sure I’m not the only one that is sitting with my “Notes” app open on my iPhone trying to drum up some goals for 2019. Quite frankly, I’ve been thinking about this all week.
It is so cliche that come ‘the end of the year’ everyone is setting goals for ‘the upcoming year’. Before you attack my opinions, I don’t find anything wrong with this, I just simply find it silly that there is a ‘deadline’ on a start and a finish to creating and accomplishing goals.
Christmas just passed and the New Year isn’t quite here yet. It’s a super weird time of year where most of us have no clue what day it is, no clue whether we should be at work, at home, sleeping in or getting up early. The other day I literally woke up and said to myself, “Is it Monday, Thursday or Sunday?! Who knows.”
Let’s face it, you don’t need a calendar year to dictate when you’re going to set or crush your goals. All you need is a positive state of mind and an attitude that is going to get you where you want to be – maybe that and your “Notes” app or wherever you record important things.
The end of December or the beginning of January are definitely not the only times during a year where you can start eating healthy, start saving money or start going to the gym. You can start that shit proudly on any day, during any week or at the beginning, middle or end of any month.
It. Does. Not. Have. To. Be. January. 1st.
I asked my fiance tonight if he had set his goals for the year yet and his response was “I don’t set goals at the beginning of the year, I keep setting goals all year long.” Don’t quote me on that being the exact thing he said but it was something to that degree.
“Smart”, I thought to myself.
Our goals don’t have to be achieved within a year. Our goals can be set and/or achieved within days, weeks or months. They can be physical or they can be mental. They can be big or they can be small. They can be public or they can be personal. While I don’t think that we should put a timeline on achieving goals, I do think that we should set them.
Here are a couple of simple but effective tips while goal setting:
- Create a plan, don’t wait for someone else to do it for you.
- Start small, start simple.
- Write them down and include a deadline that works for you, not the rest of the world.
- Be specific.
- Leave room for failure, don’t expect perfection.
- Track your progress.
- Reward success, don’t beat yourself up over failure.
- If you need to, or can, find a support system or a friend who might have the same goals in mind. You don’t have to do this alone.
Out of sheer curiosity I looked at the goals I had set for myself last year around this time and my goals were:
- Be present.
- Exercise regularly.
- Spend more time with family.
- Paint more.
- Buy less but buy quality.
- Make positive changes.
Here’s where I honestly ‘finished’ at the end of this year…
I feel like I certainly didn’t become more present. In fact, I feel like I got worse.
I started exercising regularly (and I still am) but it wasn’t until about halfway through the year. Honestly, I think this had a better effect on me than handcuffing myself to a treadmill on January 1, 2018.
I did get quite a bit of family time in but I can certainly improve in this category.
I painted once, maybe twice, but I did create a bit of a love for baking…or what I like to call “making a DISASTER of my kitchen and finishing with deliciously baked treats”.
Did I buy less? I don’t think so. Did I buy quality? Kind of. I don’t really know where to measure myself on this one, to be honest.
Did I make positive changes? 1000-fucking-percent I did and I am SO proud. I’m going to keep these positive changes to myself for the fear that someone takes something the wrong way but as 2018 winds down, I did make positive changes and IT FEELS SO GOOD.
So if you’re wondering if I am going to set goals for myself today, for 2019…I haven’t yet decided and I’m not going to get down on myself for not having a list by the time the clock strikes midnight on the 31st.
2019 is already going to be a big year for me because I am marrying the love of my life. I genuinely look forward to the goals we are going to set together, as a small team of two but I also look forward to creating my own.
Stay tuned for my goals as I set them. You’re welcome to follow me on Instagram @martalozynska – I am private on there but don’t be afraid to request! Unless you’re a complete weirdo, I’ll let you follow my life!
This will definitely be my last post of the year, so with that said I wish all of you a VERY Happy New Year. I wish you all nothing but health, love, laughter and gratitude in 2019.