I’m not usually one to post long rants or opinions but when I woke up this morning, I felt the need to speak out.
This week has been an emotional roller coaster for many. Icon and fashion leader, Kate Spade, took her life at the young age of 55 and today we woke up to the news that world-traveler, celebrity chef and author, Anthony Bourdain, 61, has also succumbed to suicide.
I can’t even begin to imagine the emotion that immediate friends and family are feeling. My heart breaks for them. Many have always argued that suicide is such a selfish way to go. That there are people willing to listen and help. Each time that someone passes away as a result of drug/alcohol addiction or mental illness, everyone always comments that help is just a phone call away.
Is it? Is it really that easy? If it was, icons, mentors and millionaires like Kate and Anthony would be calling too, wouldn’t they?!
We idolize, follow and live our lives vicariously through celebrities/athletes/influencers each and every day. They make such an impact on our lives. We need these people to bind together and make a difference. We need political leaders to stop f***ing tweeting nonsense and start paying attention to what matters in this lifetime.
As a just-turned 33 year old I can safely say that this is such a difficult time to be “growing up” in. These are some of the most challenging times that we are living in right now. Life is complicated, it’s stressful and unfair. We need a movement, we need help and we need it now.
Anxiety lives in my family and I am extremely thankful that my my mom, sister or I have never had any life-altering episodes. Knocks on wood.
I want to be super clear that I am not a specialist, a doctor or a genius in these topics but what I do know is that I try to do little things to avoid negativity in my life and I want to share those things with you in hopes of them making the slightest little difference in yours, especially if you’re struggling:
- Cut the bullshit (that you can control) out of your life. Stop immersing yourself in the Trump disgrace, stop reading articles that are going to make your blood boil. Stop following garbage on social media. Find the stuff that makes you smile and follow that.
- Get 8 hours of sleep a day. This has changed my life! It’s changed my energy levels and it’s changed how I function on the daily. It allows me to wake up with a clearer and rested mind and it helps me make the most out of my days. Sure, we all have days where we are dragging our butts but only you can control that.
- Eat healthy and exercise. I honestly give thanks to my fiance, Jordan, for being the one to guide me to a healthier lifestyle. I don’t think I could have done it on my own. We workout together, we workout often and we hold each other accountable to eating healthy. Grab a friend or your significant other and do the same. Trust me you’ll be happy you did.
- Slow your life down. I used to be a ball of STRESS each and every day but I had control over whether or not that was going to be how I continued to live my life. I made a change and I’m happier and healthier because of it. You can too.
Disclaimer: Now let me make one thing very clear here…I’m not saying that by doing the 4 things I just mentioned you are going to prevent suicide, anxiety or mental illness. But what I am saying is that they are baby steps to achieving a healthy mind. They are little steps towards surrounding yourself with the right people. People that can hopefully make a difference in your life.
I don’t know what the answer is to preventing suicide or mental illness but what I do know is that I can, and you can too, control things that make a small difference. Small things that would otherwise bundle up into bigger things.
Thanks for reading. I hope that at the very least you’ve become a bit more aware.
Rest in peace Kate and Anthony. Thank your for your contributions to this world.